We all experience our own battles in life & endure pain and struggle. In this post I want to share with you how I overcame my biggest setback in hopes that anyone reading this who may have experienced something similar or any trauma can regain their life.
A few years ago I fell victim to “sexual assault” Now, “sexual assault” is a politically correct term for “rape” I won’t go into the finer details of the actual incident with you however, I want to share with you the effects it had and the way I overcame this tough time.
When you endure a traumatic experience it consumes your thoughts, it sometimes takes over your will to go on and a lot of the time you lose sight of reality, you lose sight of your inner voice. When I was assaulted it flipped my world upside down. I lost touch with my closest friends, I pushed away my family and lost sight of who I really was. This was not their fault, this was me being angry at life for dealing me such cards. Whatever trauma you’ve experienced, a lot of the time it will leave you with some form of post traumatic stress or side effect. Most doctors will recommend medication to numb the pain and hope that you’ll find your way through counselling.
For me, it wasn’t that simple.. you see I tried every avenue to get myself back but nothing healed the pain. When you experience something painful the hardest thing to do is get through it. A massive thing that you need to understand is in order to move forward you must learn ACCEPTANCE. This was the most challenging thing for my mind to grasp however, something clicked inside of me one day which finally let me begin to heal.
Acceptance – As difficult as it may seem, you must accept that what has happened has happened. It’s easy to get angry with the world but you need to accept that you cannot change the past. You don’t have to agree with what happened to you but once you have found acceptance you can being the healing process.
Secondly, you must focus your energy into loving YOURSELF. Understand that whatever it was that happened was not your fault & it is okay to be upset as being upset is a part of the healing process. Let it out, whether you release it by screaming into a pillow or going to the gym, spend time on yourself. Do things that make you feel GOOD. Feel good endorphins will pick you back up when you are feeling low. These can be things such as spending time with loved ones, reading your favourite book or watching your favourite movie. Whatever it is, ensure it makes you feel good.
Finally, refocus on your future & set some GOALS. Nothing feels better than achieving something you’ve set your mind on. Use the struggle to inspire you to chase your dreams. Who says you can’t be the next Michael Jordan? Who says you can’t be the best version of yourself? If you remember to accept the past, and focus on creating a beautiful future I promise you that each day it will get better. Keep striving for greatness, we weren’t put on this planet just to simply “exist”.