When you wake up every morning, what drives you? What is your purpose?
If you want to live a life enriched with love and happiness it begins with you, so find your purpose and find your WHY.
It’s important to take steps daily to move forward, it’s not always going to be an easy road but if you know your purpose, And what drives and inspires you then you WILL improve your life.
Your why will pull you up when you’ve been knocked down and it will keep you fighting when you’re tired. I heard something this morning from one of my favourite speakers saying “don’t look back you’re not going that way, and when you get knocked down.. get back up”
If we know our purpose it will be the reason you keep on fighting for your dreams.. when it hurts, keep going.. for if we push through those tough times they will only make us STRONGER. Stay focused and do NOT loose sight of that.
Be the very best. Sacrifice, get up early & fight back.. you are FAR from ordinary.
I Had a conversation with someone today in which we spoke about our goals and how to be successful..this person was adamant that hard work doesn’t ALWAYS pay off in the end. They told me that some people work themselves to the bone for years and it just never seems to pay off..
Its simple you guys, I responded by telling them that the reason it didn’t pay off was because they had no purpose, they continued to do the same thing over and over again expecting different results & they never saw success because they were comfortable consistently being average.
There are people in this world that work for years within a company but they never progress and they stay at the same level.. I genuinely cannot comprehend why anyone would want to settle and accept average. It’s so important to continue to grow in whatever field that you’re in and be the best at what you do! I understand not everyone has the same mentality as I do but why go through the motions and be like everyone else in this world?
Know WHY you do what you do & exactly what you want to achieve.. Don’t get stuck in the same routine leading to no where.
Today I am headed to finalize plans for something i’m honored and excited to be a part of, in which I will post further details closer to date.
I have been really focusing on which path I want to go down and what steps I need to take to ensure I reach my goals, I think its important to take steps forward in bettering yourself.. some of the things I like to do daily is reflect and keep my goals in check.
- Identify qualities you admire about yourself, self affirmation is key. Find qualities that you admire in others also and figure out what is is that you want to learn by making plans and doing what you need to do to learn and grow in that particular field.
- Decide what you want to change whether circumstantial or within yourself.
- Identify your flaws. Think about the things that you don’t like about yourself and do what you can daily to work on these things. Realize we all have flaws, and that’s OK, no person in this world is perfect but If its something that you can change take steps daily/weekly/monthly to grow and become your best possible self.
- Get input – Network, get tips and advice from friends, family and influential people that you look up too. Outside perspective is important, its good to get advice from others.
- Start small, work up – Baby steps, write down your goals and what steps you need to take to achieve them.
- Decide on a timeline – Set dates that you want to achieve your goals by so you can keep yourself motivated and focused to achieve them.
- Follow through- Finally, don’t be distracted by external sources.. its normal to get sidetracked but remember WHY its important for you to achieve your goals and re focus – Don’t let anyone or anything stand in your way of growing and being amazing! We are all meant to shine 🙂
Have you ever had a conversation where it seems like the person you are speaking to is only half there? They aren’t fully paying attention to you? They aren’t maintaining eye contact in which their body language is telling you they aren’t fully engaged? Well, I have.. many times and I wanted to share something I find powerful.
Attunement, is the interaction between people that shows a sense of connection and a degree of understanding. I learned about this a few years back while I was working at the biggest Fitness club in Canada – in order to engage with my members and build meaningful relationships. Attunement is powerful, and if you can understand and grasp the concept it can really help you grow and value your daily interactions on a deeper level.
When we engage in conversations, not only do we do this verbally but we also communicate by using body language.
You can tell whether someone is fully engaged not only by the conversation flowing smoothly, but by things visually such as hand gestures, head nods and eye contact.
In order to connect and understand the power of attunement when you are speaking to someone, it is important to be 100% focused on the individual standing in front of you and genuinely listen to what it is that they are saying..don’t listen to hear, listen to UNDERSTAND. Ensure that you give that person your undivided attention – when we do this it makes the world of a difference. The conversations are deeper and more meaningful, we are more open and we look forward to connecting with more people daily.
Remember, listen to understand not to hear.. and don’t forget to listen with your eyes.. they say the eyes are the window to the soul.
The question remains, Is that all you’ve got?
When I woke up this morning this is what came to mind.. Don’t loose heart, remember this is the battle between you and your mind so you need to drown out the voice of uncertainty with the sound of your own heart beat & you must burn away your self doubt with the fire inside of you.
Believe the voice inside of you that says you can run a little faster, you can grind a little harder. There is nothing as powerful as a changed mind..You can change your hair, you can change your clothing & your address, but if you don’t change your MIND the same experience will perpetuate again and again.. we need to change INWARDLY and focus on our mindset to achieve what we want in life. Don’t be like most people, focus on what you what it is that you want so bad and STEP UP. Discover what you’re capable of my friend, who says you can’t? I believe that the only one who is standing in your way is the person you see reflecting in the mirror. I think something happens when you step into your fears..you make a decision, you make a choice. A choice that is to develop the courage to chase the things that you want in life as your life has value and your dreams have PURPOSE. With that said, What are you going to do with the 24 hours that lay before you? What are you going to do with this new day, this new chapter? Ask yourself.. am I going to STEP UP and chase my goals like a lion chasing a gazelle or am I going to go back to bed. GET UP & GET BUSY, Time waits for no man.
Today was nothing short of beautiful. I am constantly looking for new avenues to inspire my creativity so I decided to venture into town to visit Manchester’s Art Gallery and have a peek at the different artists work.. I was nothing short of inspired.
When you explore places you’ve never been before and you have conversations with different minds you understand and gain new perspectives on the way you view things. I believe you become more open to new ideas and different concepts. I read this dramatic piece about Michelangelo from 1503, where rather than him depict the Battle of Cascina, he decided to show the moment before the fight – where the soldiers were caught off guard whilst bathing before the fight of the Piscan army. I thought deeply about this and I found it inspiring that he chose to draw that moment rather than the actual fight itself.. as I read more I began to realize that his way of thinking was different than everybody else, his thought process was unique and the way he expresses himself is unlike anyone else. I took away with me this simple thought.. Being unique is beautiful, being DIFFERENT is something incomparable and rather than us trying to conform or fit in to societies definition of beauty, we need to own who we are and love ourselves as there is no one else on this earth like you.
Following the Art Museum, I headed over to Manchester’s Cat Cafe. I had never been before so it was all a new experience for me. When I arrived the kind lady at the desk walked me through the process before I eventually headed in to have coffee with the kitties! They have a no shoe policy so I kicked off my boots and wandered into the cafe’ When I got inside it was beautiful! I didn’t know what to expect so when I actually stepped inside I was delighted.. The staff are the friendliest people and the cats are so loving and calm. I loved that every person inside had a smile on their face, it truly was a warm and welcome place to visit Above is a photo I took of a stranger feeding one of the cats which I found quite peaceful. If anyone is thinking of checking this place out, I would highly recommend it and give it a solid 5 stars 🙂
The struggle that lit my fire.
We all experience our own battles in life & endure pain and struggle. In this post I want to share with you how I overcame my biggest setback in hopes that anyone reading this who may have experienced something similar or any trauma can regain their life.
A few years ago I fell victim to “sexual assault” Now, “sexual assault” is a politically correct term for “rape” I won’t go into the finer details of the actual incident with you however, I want to share with you the effects it had and the way I overcame this tough time.
When you endure a traumatic experience it consumes your thoughts, it sometimes takes over your will to go on and a lot of the time you lose sight of reality, you lose sight of your inner voice. When I was assaulted it flipped my world upside down. I lost touch with my closest friends, I pushed away my family and lost sight of who I really was. This was not their fault, this was me being angry at life for dealing me such cards. Whatever trauma you’ve experienced, a lot of the time it will leave you with some form of post traumatic stress or side effect. Most doctors will recommend medication to numb the pain and hope that you’ll find your way through counselling.
For me, it wasn’t that simple.. you see I tried every avenue to get myself back but nothing healed the pain. When you experience something painful the hardest thing to do is get through it. A massive thing that you need to understand is in order to move forward you must learn ACCEPTANCE. This was the most challenging thing for my mind to grasp however, something clicked inside of me one day which finally let me begin to heal.
Acceptance – As difficult as it may seem, you must accept that what has happened has happened. It’s easy to get angry with the world but you need to accept that you cannot change the past. You don’t have to agree with what happened to you but once you have found acceptance you can being the healing process.
Secondly, you must focus your energy into loving YOURSELF. Understand that whatever it was that happened was not your fault & it is okay to be upset as being upset is a part of the healing process. Let it out, whether you release it by screaming into a pillow or going to the gym, spend time on yourself. Do things that make you feel GOOD. Feel good endorphins will pick you back up when you are feeling low. These can be things such as spending time with loved ones, reading your favourite book or watching your favourite movie. Whatever it is, ensure it makes you feel good.
Finally, refocus on your future & set some GOALS. Nothing feels better than achieving something you’ve set your mind on. Use the struggle to inspire you to chase your dreams. Who says you can’t be the next Michael Jordan? Who says you can’t be the best version of yourself? If you remember to accept the past, and focus on creating a beautiful future I promise you that each day it will get better. Keep striving for greatness, we weren’t put on this planet just to simply “exist”.